The Stay-or-Go Framework
Before making any decision, separate the fixable from the fundamental. This framework helps you cut through the noise.
Step 1: Name What's Actually Wrong
Write down your top three frustrations. Be specific. "I hate my job" isn't useful. "My manager undermines my decisions in front of the team" is.
Step 2: Test for Fixability
For each frustration, ask:- Has this changed in the last 12 months? (Direction matters)
- Is it within someone's power to fix it?
- Would fixing it require you to become someone you're not?
Step 3: Calculate Your Real Runway
Don't romanticize leaving. Know your numbers:- Months of expenses covered by savings
- How long your job search will realistically take
- What you'd accept vs. what you're hoping for
Step 4: Make the Call
If the problem is fixable and you have the energy to fight for it, stay and fight. If it's fundamental or you're already depleted, start planning your exit. There's no shame in either choice—only in staying stuck.
What This Looks Like in Practice
The Scenario: James, a Director of Engineering at a consumer tech company, was burning out. His team of 40 had grown without the corresponding support structure, and he was firefighting constantly. He loved the mission but dreaded Monday mornings.
What He Did: Before making any career moves, James separated the signal from the noise:
- He mapped out which of his frustrations were fixable (team structure, processes) versus fundamental (company culture, leadership support)
- He took a week of PTO to get some distance and perspective
- He had a frank conversation with his VP about what would need to change for him to stay engaged
The Outcome: The conversation went better than expected. His VP hadn't realized how stretched James was and immediately approved two new manager hires. But the conversation also revealed a fundamental truth: the company's growth pace wasn't going to slow down. James would need to decide if he wanted to be on that ride.
He chose to stay, but with new boundaries and a clearer picture of what he was signing up for. A year later, he's still there—challenged but not drowning.
The Lesson: Sometimes the answer isn't leave or stay—it's renegotiate the terms of staying.
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What You'll Walk Away With
Our structured session produces concrete artifacts, not just conversation.
Decision Snapshot A clear-eyed assessment of your current situation—what's true, what's not, and what actually matters for your decision.
Fork Recommendation A specific direction (stay, go, or pivot) with the reasoning behind it, so you understand not just what to do but why.
Risk Map Everything that could go wrong with your chosen path, and how to mitigate each risk before it materializes.
Conversation Scripts Exact language for the hard conversations you need to have—with your boss, your partner, recruiters, or anyone else.
14-Day Action Plan The specific steps to take immediately after our session, so momentum doesn't stall.
30-Day Roadmap The longer-term plan for executing your decision, with milestones and check-in points.
These aren't templates—they're customized to your specific situation, role, and constraints.
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Ready for Personalized Guidance?
Every situation is different. If you want help thinking through yours—with someone who's seen hundreds of similar cases—consider working with a coach.
What you get:- A structured conversation to clarify your situation
- Frameworks tailored to your specific circumstances
- Scripts you can actually use
- A clear action plan