Managing Up When Your Manager Is the Problem
A difficult manager is one of the most common career challenges. Here's how to diagnose and navigate it.
First: Categorize the Problem
Bad managers fall into recognizable patterns:- The Micromanager: Doesn't trust you, needs to approve everything
- The Ghost: Never available, provides no direction or support
- The Credit-Taker: Claims your work, blocks your visibility
- The Bully: Uses fear, publicly criticizes, plays favorites
Each requires a different response.
Second: Document Everything
Before taking action, start keeping records:- Decisions made and their outcomes
- Commitments your manager makes (and breaks)
- Your contributions and their impact
This protects you and clarifies your thinking.
Third: Attempt the Direct Approach
Many bad managers don't know they're bad managers. One honest conversation might change things. Frame it as: "I want to do great work here. Can we talk about how to make that easier?"
Fourth: Build Alternatives
If direct approaches fail, your options are:- Find a new role internally (bypass the manager)
- Wait out your manager (they might leave first)
- Leave the organization entirely
Don't wait indefinitely. Set a timeline.
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